|What makes a good parent Taking the bully by the horns|
If I were my parents I would always stick up for my kid because if you don't, your kid begins to feel bad and thinks that you don't care about him. Anyway, your kid always needs somebody to stick up for him.
I would also let my kid wear whatever he wants and make his own decisions, because kids need freedom as much as parents do, if not more.I'm not saying you can let your kid do whatever he wants, but don't confine him, and let him make his own decisions.
I would also let him keep his room however he wants. But tell him to clean it once a week. If he doesn't want to clean it, don't make him, just close the door. Make sure that nobody cleans up for him.
Let him pick his own friends. If you don't like one of his friends, then tell him that. If he doesn't want to change his friends, tell him that you won't let the friend come in the house. But still don't take him away from his friends unless he's doing something really bad like drugs.
Go out of your way for him but don't change your course. Which means you can go out of your way for him but don't cancel something important for yourself for something not so important for him. Like going to the mall or going to a friend's house.
Let him do what he wants, work with what he wants, and how he wants to work. Let him take as much time as he can. But that doesn't mean he can wait a week if you need something done now. Like bringing down the laundry or taking out the garbage.
School. Make a schedule together of when he's going to do his homework and projects, when and what he is going to do for after-school activities, and when he is going to eat dinner each day. And make sure to ask if he has homework and if he doesn't, ask him what subjects he had today and what he had to do in each one. That way he'll "remember" the homework better.
Have meetings with his teacher every other month to check how he's doing. If he's not doing that well, talk to him about it but be gentle. Sometimes he's doing as good as he can.
Dinner. Dinner is one of the most important meals that you should have together at the same time always with a full meal, including drinks, salad, and a main course. And when the kids are good-dessert. During dinner, you should ask the kids how their day was, what they did, and what happened.
After dinner, you do not have to serve any more dinners, but you can serve snacks. After 9:30, the kitchen should close for you. Your kids can still go in and get whatever they want.
Chores: Everybody should get their share of chores and the parents should also do their share of chores. If the kids do their chores right for a week, give them a little prize or take them out for dinner.
Allowances: Kids should get allowances according to their age. Like you don't give a five-year-old a buck. But you do give an eight-year-old a buck. For every year, the kids' allowance should go up by at least a half a dollar. Start giving allowance (about a quarter) at the age of five. So kids can learn the value of a dollar. But they have to do chores for the money.
How to talk to your kids:
Talk to your kids gently. And not that much. Let the kids do the talking. If they need encouragement to talk, start talking a lot and then let them pick up. At the end the parents should do almost no talking and just say, uh huh, and yes.
How I think my mother is doing:
My mother is doing okay, but I don't think she gives me enough allowance and we don't have dinner together or a schedule of homework. All in all, she's OK, though. If she reads this article, maybe she'll do a bit better.